Can I ever be with him

I’ve been with my partner for 3 and a half years, I’ve always made the effort and he doesn’t bother. We have two kids together, am I just wasting my time hoping he’ll change? Does he have any interest in me anymore?

Your partner thinks that things are not that bad between the pair of you despite the fact that you have made such a big effort with him and he is complacent that you would never tell him to go. He appears to be settled as things are and he is not willing to change sadly, he is still interested in you but seems to think that life will carry on with you the way that they are, and if this is making you feel unfulfilled and unhappy. You may wish to take control of this relationship and take a brave step forwards and continue with your life with him just being a dad to your children and not have him in your life in a romantic way.

My husband’s first love from high school has recently made an attempt to get in touch with him. She somehow got his email and emailed him, he told me about it and showed me the email which on the surface seems to be quite innocent but I’m concerned that this may bring up old feelings from the past. He said he doesn’t think that he will reply, I don’t want to tell him what to do but I’m concerned about this woman’s true intentions. Should I leave it or should I tell him I don’t feel comfortable with him talking with past lovers?

Your husband has been very open and honest with you as he has showed you the email it would have been so easy to have hidden this from you and communicated with her without your knowledge and he has chosen thankfully not too, your marriage is worth far more to him than that.

I really am not being shown that he is or would be interested in this woman again and she has contacted him just to see how life has treated him it is merely a catch up and she is not looking at him in a romantic way this is not her intention. I do not sense that your husband will choose to reply to her and should he do so you have nothing to fear, as after some brief communication they more than likely will not hear from each other again.

I have been applying for a job since a few months. Will I get a call from the company of my choice? Will I get a good profile and how will my career be in 2017?

There is a change ahead of you but it will not be necessarily from the company of your choice. It would be wise to try to widen your horizons and not just rely on one particular company, due to the fact that this could lead to disappointment. I am being shown that there is a job offer for you over the next few months and it is a job well worth considering as there would be many opportunities on offer at a later date, and this will help to broaden your horizons and build up your profile. Keep you options open and try not to just focus on one company only. There are some wonderful times ahead of you.

I feel my boyfriend is taking me for granted. We used to be so happy and spent all our time together. Now we seem to have drifted apart and when we do see each other, all we seem to do is argue. I feel that he is just using me for his pleasure lately, should I make a fresh start or should I fight to make things work?

This man seems to feel that this relationship has gone rather stale and he is taking it for granted, but this is not a malicious feeling at all. I am sensing that he feels a little too comfortable but this is not meant to mean that you should break up-but the lines of communication need to be kept open. The best way to turn this around is not to nag him, act cool and indifferent almost as if you have lost the interest. He will notice this and his behaviour towards you will improve and he will be more attentive, he will become more respectful and thankful that you are still in his life.

I keep having dreams about my ex-partner however it's been 7 months since we split. It's like I'm having dreams where I actually feel I'm there but I'm not, and it seems as if they're happening in the future. I've had one dream where he calls out the blue, another where we meet up, and they keep going on and on. Could you please tell me if there is any specific reason I'm having these dreams? Thanks.

Dreaming about your ex does not always mean that you have feelings for him, this means that there are some unresolved issues. It is also a case that you are revisiting a period of time and your mind is recreating the happy experience that was once connected to your ex. These are dreams that are a symbol to you of hope for love that is currently missing in your life at the moment. There will be a new love for you in the future 2017 brings in the man that you are supposed to be with.

The man I love has pulled away, supposedly because of issues at work. While I do believe his professional problems are big, I wonder if he has kept his distance to also work out his feelings for me. He has never been one to voice his emotions, as he was raised in such a culture. I have reached out, but he seems to still want his space. I guess my question is: Will he one day be able to open up to me and commit, or will he just continue to stay away? I care deeply for him, but I do not know how to go about this. Any insight would truly help. Thank you very much.

I can see that you truly love this man and your patience with him has been amazing he seems to have the concept that you will be waiting for him always no matter what and in some ways although this is lovely it is also working against you. This man does have a lot on his mind regarding his work however that is not the whole reason.

He is unsure about his feelings and fear seems to creep in from time to time and this is the reason he wants the time and space to sort out his head, he does not deal with emotions very well at all sadly. I am not being shown that you will leave him due to the fact that he will open up to you in the future but is appears to be several months away as a guideline, he does have a big fear of commitment and it could take years before he would agree to engagement or marriage so please bear this in mind. Overall he is not a bad man but emotionally he seems to continually struggle and this is linked to his past.