Can I ever be with him

Hi my name is Lesley 14/7/51, I’ve recently moved to New Zealand to be near family and to start a new life after divorce 6 years ago, I’m looking for work and deciding where to settle, will I find work soon and somewhere to live and be okay financially, thank you, Lesley

Hi Lesley, 

Firstly to move to be near family was the right thing to do and I do see that positive things are about to come your way, there is going to be a new an exciting opportunity for you during the month of January regarding work I do see that financially you will be stable, and in all honesty I do not feel that you will not look back to the past. The job and the place where you settle is not far from your family. 2015 is a year where you really do start to rebuild your life in a big way after being in such a negative situation that you have now left behind.

There are some wonderful times ahead of you.

Hi, myself Trish 24/08/74 and Patrick 28/10/73 have been together 18 years married 10 he went off 1 year ago to Lindsey 17/09/78 I had to leave our home and rent but house I in now is lovely I am happier kids are happy but one thing is missing Patrick will he return to our marriage or is my instincts wrong and I should give up on us thank you xx

I can see for you this really has been a difficult time and Patrick seems to have got bored of the marriage and Lindsey just happened to be around at the time. Patrick appears to be okay with his situation as it is right now, and it is not until the relationship goes sour that he will try to return to you and this will take a few more months as yet, they do seem to have their troubles but he is not willing to leave at this moment in time. When Patrick does try to return the choice will be totally yours but there is some hesitation around this as he has caused you so much pain and you will have your reservations about having him back as the trust has gone completely and you have done so well to put your life back on track alone, and the fact he returns when things go wrong for him will make you suspicious, It is going to be a really emotional time for you.

We lived together for 9 months,we constantly had fights caused because he and his ex were still in close contacts. In August,after a heated argument he went back to her. He still says he loves me and wants me to give him time to get out of the relationship with the ex. Even though I loved him, I am beginning to think this is causing more hurt to me than happiness. Should I hold on and wait?

I can see that this has been a turbulent relationship and this man will keep going from one ex to the other and you will end up in an emotional roller coaster. Although he says that he still loves you in his own way he does and although he is saying all the right things as he now wishes to be with you I do not see that he is going to resolve the issues with his ex and I am not being shown that he will leave her in the near future. If you can, it would be wise to try and let this man go as I see history repeating itself and you will re live the moments of when you were living together for 9 months. I do see that you will choose not to wait for him as there appears to be no end in sight with his current relationship sadly. The good news is there is a new love for you during 2015 and this man is by far, more straight forward.

Peter and i were getting along great but due to other issues in my life I had to address, I kindly asked him for some space. He has seen this as rejection and felt hurt so turned quite nasty saying hurtful things and now has ended the relationship. We both then had words and my honesty hasn’t done me any favours. Is this over for good and should I move on? He won’t speak to me anymore even though i have tried to talk things over x

Even though you have done the correct thing in being totally honest with Peter which was the correct thing to do, has really taken it to heart and totally misunderstood what you were trying to say and you were really doing it out of kindness, it seems to Peter it was a case of Déjà vu he had been down this pathway before and things went really wrong for him in the past and this is the real reason he has turned nasty and said some pretty hurtful things of which I do not really feel he meant at all. This is not totally the end if you do not wish it to be, Peter is going to do a lot of thinking and he will be in contact with you again, let Peter make the contact towards you, stay quiet for now and this will enable him to get things back on track although it will be slow progress indeed.

Hi, my daughter is leaving home to move onto a new chosen career. I feel so lonely at the prospect of living on my own. What do you see for me and will I meet a new man? Xx

Firstly, it is understandable and only natural that you are dreading the thought of being alone once your daughter has left home but take comfort in the fact that you have brought her up into the woman that she has become right now and has the confidence to pursue her career choice of which she will excel in. I can see that there will be short periods of loneliness for a while but it does become less and less as you make plans to socialize much more. The socializing will indeed allow you to meet a new man, but please be careful not to rush into things as you are feeling lonely at times as then you can become vulnerable and attract the wrong sort of man. 

There is a new man for you and this is the right one and it is during the summer months of next year as a guideline that you meet him and will treat you well and really adore you he also brings laughter into your life with his great sense of humour!

This guy and I have been on and off in speaking terms for quite a while. I just need to know what will become of us two. I know he's no good for me but I still feel a strong connection towards him. It's more of a power previously unknown to me. Will he come back to me anytime soon?

This man seems to love to spend time with you but he appears to be happy with the situation as it is and sadly although you can feel a connection towards him he is not looking for anything too serious right now. He will return to you in the near future however please be mindful that the situation will still be the same as it has always been with you he will still be in and out of your life. If this is something that you feel you can cope with then this is fine, I am not being shown a change of heart with this man ahead, he does have issues with addressing his feelings and emotions which he does need to sort out but currently there is a reluctance to do so.