Can I ever be with him

The father of my baby turned his back on me after finding out I was pregnant. While I still believe he is a good man and hope that he will one day return to acknowledge his responsibilities as a father, I am about to give up this idea to accept the possibility that he may never show up. Am I right in thinking this way?

This man could not handle the responsibility of a child as it all came as a shock to him and this is why he turned his back on you, I do see that he is not a bad man and he will try to return at a later date and offer money to you, as he is feeling really guilty of how he has behaved given the circumstances however I cannot guarantee that he will face up to his responsibilities of being a father. This man will try to return to you but sadly may well let your child down again; he seems to be in denial about your baby. Concentrate on being the wonderful mum that I feel sure you are and enjoy this precious time.

I have been in a relationship with a man who appears to be extremely genuine and caring for almost a year. I'm a country girl and he knows that I would not be able to live with him or anyone in London; I simply can't do towns and cities. He has mentioned buying a country house, but I occasionally wonder if this is just to keep me on-board. Although he rings every day we are not together often due to his London and foreign commitments. Do we have an agreeable future together?

I can see that with the relationship surviving this distance that it has for a year, your relationship can survive anything. He does understand that a country life is something that you feel most comfortable with and that a city life would make you feel very unhappy indeed, this man is not about to upset your world in any way at all. He does have the good intention of buying a country house and he will ensure that you included in choosing this home as he will want you to move there with him so you both have a base together. His work is always going to be busy however; he is going to try to balance out his work/life balance so that you do get to spend more time together as he does want you in his life on a permanent basis. . I do see that you have a bright future ahead of you as this man does mean what he says.

I was born on 26th April 1966 - the year of the Fire horse. I've meandered through life with failed relationships and a failed marriage. I've heard that people born in that year are unlucky. Will I ever find happiness or will I always be unlucky?

I can see that fact that you have been told this has made your "mind set'' that things in life simply will not go your way. I do feel that happiness is on the way for you and if you can try not to think yourself as being unlucky in life this really will change the way your life is to pan out remain as positive as you are able too. Love has not been the greatest for you with many hurts. Love does really come your way and it is this year that it arrives out of the blue, this is a man who truly cares about you and will make you feel really special indeed. There are talks of a commitment later on this year and you will be feeling that life has taken a turn for the better and it will be long lasting and you will no longer be thinking yourself as being simply the unlucky one.

I got into a heated argument with my boyfriend a month ago, we were shouting at each other when he suddenly hit me. He stopped shouting and started to apologise immediately and has been apologising ever since and promised that it will never happen again. Should I forgive him? I don’t know what to think but every time I think about it I get a chill down my spine.

I do see that he is truly sorry for what he has done and you never considered him hitting you until he actually did this. This has come as a great shock to you. This man does feel really, really bad about what has happened and is frightened that now you will walk away from him for good. I am not being shown that you will see this behaviour from him again in the future as he is so ashamed of himself and really does wish to make it up to you. The whole scenario has led you to really question the integrity with this man, it would be wise to say that there is not more chance and should this behaviour be shown by him again then the relationship is well and truly over, as this is unacceptable behaviour that you will not tolerate.

There has been a man who has popped in and out of my life at irregular intervals for the last 6 yrs. He blows very hot and then very cold. I am no longer putting my life on hold for him, but I find myself thinking about him most days. Could this relationship ever work out and become "normal”?

This man does not want to commit to anyone sadly and this is not a reflection on you at all, it is just the way that he chooses to be, I do see that you have a strong connection towards him but sadly he is not able to offer you what you are really looking for. He appears to be happy with the current situation as it is and therefore, sees no reason as to why he should change. He seems to have periods in his life when he really needs to spend time with you and then once he has had his 'fix' he drifts off once more. It is good that you are not putting your life on hold for this man as I do see that you are going to really move forwards during 2015 and there are much better times in front of you where there is a man that will be consistent in your life and you will never look back from distancing yourself permanently from this man.

My true love and I never got married since he was to say married to the job and didn't make a lot of money, was in debt so we stayed friends and I know that we still love each other. I did get married and have kids that are grownups now and I haven't been really happy for many years and really miss him and want to talk to him since I've been told that he still loves me and wants to be with me.

This man has put work before anything else in his life but always had love for you. He is a good man and he does often have you in this thoughts, he totally understood why you moved on with your life with marriage and your children. I do see that there is some really serious talking to be done in order to get things moving again. He will be very cautious as he would not wish to be responsible for breaking up your marriage and he would make no promises unless you were free, as soon as things become easier for you it is then that he moves forwards in your direction. He is a good man and he always held you in high esteem and valued your friendship. There are some interesting times ahead of you and you can be together.