Can I ever be with him

I have been with a man for nearly 18month and I truly love him. The problem is I just never know where I stand with him. Some days he just adores me and others he is cold and quite ignorant. It's so confusing. He will cut me off completely for 2-3 weeks for no reason and then tell me I am wonderful we will have another few days feeling happy and then he's cold again. When we are together he and I are a match made in heaven, never have I ever experienced such a strong connection. But when he disconnects he will ignore my calls, get snappy and irritated, now I know some you may wonder if I am a bit clingy however I am pretty strong and have my own independent emotional ways, so I don't harass him or get over clingy I just leave him until he comes round again. I just feel as though he does care but then I wonder if it's all in my mind. He also hates me saying anything nice about him to the point where he will walk away furious if I do much as say he is looking good today. It is a shame because we are good most of the time but when he turns a cold shoulder it’s pretty raw emotionally. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I can see that you are in a really difficult situation at the moment and I see that this man does love you. The problem is that he does have some issues related to his past which is causing the erratic behaviour that you seem to endure. I am being shown that this man does not really realize that he has a problem and to him the way that he is towards you is "normal". In order for this relationship to stand the test of time he needs to admit that he has problems of which he needs to sort out as it is not fair on you at all and he appears to be over sensitive about the smallest of things. If he does fail to see that his behaviour towards you at times is unacceptable and he refuses to resolve them then sadly I can see you considering walking away from this man as currently it appears that you are on an emotional roller coaster.

Hi - I'm currently contracting, having taken redundancy from a long term role in Dec 2013. I need a new contract and also I'm really ready for a senior permanent role, but there is so much competition and not many good roles. Any tips or timelines for me? Thanks!

Firstly I am not being shown that you are going to experience unemployment and the next job that you manage to secure is of a higher role for you and there is a good balance of money appertaining to this. The main thing is to identify the job that you really want and then do your homework on how to obtain it. Once you have identified the job that you want make sure your CV is up to date and do your homework on the company check to see if it has been progress within the company for example any expansion. I feel that it will show whether you know about the business in your covering letter and interview therefore find out what you can.

Once you have done this, try not to settle for less than what you deserve. Find out what similar positions pay and your opportunities for advancement. There is a new job for you in the near future of which I can see you will excel at and enjoy.

Hi. I have been seeing a guy for nearly a year and yes he is consistent but this is long distance and we see each other once a month and make contact every day. He travels for his job too. I am wondering whether in the long run this is capable of working as he is ambitious and I would be devastated if this ends as no matter how many times I push him away he comes back but lately he feels distant and vague. Can this work?

I can see that this relationship is set to change due to the distance between you both, he does not wish this relationship to end and he is going to suggest in the near future that you move in together, the suggestion will be that he would like you to move in with him. He is very ambitious and he will not let anything stand in his way to achieve what he wishes to achieve. He appears to be a little vague around you as this man has been doing some deep, deep thinking and he knows he cannot let you go and he also has decided in order for this to survive secure plans need to be put in place. There is stability around this relationship as long as you are willing to move and it can work out for the better.

Hi. I am 37 years old and I was involved in 2 short term relationships in 2014. I was wondering if I would have any potential female interest for 2015? My main social activity is running around my neighbourhood for exercise where I do encounter many people so I was wondering if there is any potential interest either there or elsewhere? Thank you for your time.

I can see that there is going to be a new love interest for you and it appears to be around late summer. I am being shown that this happens out of the blue and it is during a normal day to day routine that you meet her. She is someone who is very loyal and has not dated for some time and this has been out of her choice. This relationship will be at first be on a friendship level and there are some things that you have in common that you both enjoy there appears to be some common ground, as time goes on this develops into love. Stay as positive as you can because if you think that love will never find you it won’t be assured that 2015 brings in a good solid relationship for you.

I've been single for 9years, will I ever find the 'one'?

I can see that being single for this length of time you now finding worrying and frustrated. There is love that will come to you. It is in the near future and it appears that it arrives when you are actually absorbed in something else. This is something that you decide to join and it is almost as if love at long last, taps you on the shoulder. I do see that this is with a man that is around two years older than you and you will share a similar interest, this is what gets you talking. I do see that you will feel that you are really loved in the near future. Better times are infront of you.

I am so scunnered with my job and have been for some time now. My husband has suggested looking for another job but I feel I my career no longer interests me and has served it's purpose. I have been looking into training in a totally different field to what I have been doing but unsure which path to take. I am also a bit scared of making the wrong decision with a new venture. Help!

The career that you are currently in has now run its course and I feel that you will look "outside of the box" to see what else is on offer and this is the right pathway to go. There is a new opportunity that will come your way and this seems to be over the summertime of this year. You will be rather hesitant at first but after doing some research and also encouragement from your husband you do decide to take a giant leap into the unknown. This is not anything to be worried about at all as I see that you will have a new lease of life once you have found your niche. There are new skills to be learned and this is something that you will embrace and learn very quickly.

There are some good and exciting and interesting times ahead of you a career change is the correct decision for you. You will make the right decision as it just 'feels right'.