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I have been with a man for nearly 18month and I truly love him. The problem is I just never know where I stand with him. Some days he just adores me and others he is cold and quite ignorant. It's so confusing. He will cut me off completely for 2-3 weeks for no reason and then tell me I am wonderful we will have another few days feeling happy and then he's cold again. When we are together he and I are a match made in heaven, never have I ever experienced such a strong connection. But when he disconnects he will ignore my calls, get snappy and irritated, now I know some you may wonder if I am a bit clingy however I am pretty strong and have my own independent emotional ways, so I don't harass him or get over clingy I just leave him until he comes round again. I just feel as though he does care but then I wonder if it's all in my mind. He also hates me saying anything nice about him to the point where he will walk away furious if I do much as say he is looking good today. It is a shame because we are good most of the time but when he turns a cold shoulder it’s pretty raw emotionally. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I can see that you are in a really difficult situation at the moment and I see that this man does love you. The problem is that he does have some issues related to his past which is causing the erratic behaviour that you seem to endure. I am being shown that this man does not really realize that he has a problem and to him the way that he is towards you is "normal". In order for this relationship to stand the test of time he needs to admit that he has problems of which he needs to sort out as it is not fair on you at all and he appears to be over sensitive about the smallest of things. If he does fail to see that his behaviour towards you at times is unacceptable and he refuses to resolve them then sadly I can see you considering walking away from this man as currently it appears that you are on an emotional roller coaster.

Hi - I'm currently contracting, having taken redundancy from a long term role in Dec 2013. I need a new contract and also I'm really ready for a senior permanent role, but there is so much competition and not many good roles. Any tips or timelines for me? Thanks!

Firstly I am not being shown that you are going to experience unemployment and the next job that you manage to secure is of a higher role for you and there is a good balance of money appertaining to this. The main thing is to identify the job that you really want and then do your homework on how to obtain it. Once you have identified the job that you want make sure your CV is up to date and do your homework on the company check to see if it has been progress within the company for example any expansion. I feel that it will show whether you know about the business in your covering letter and interview therefore find out what you can.

Once you have done this, try not to settle for less than what you deserve. Find out what similar positions pay and your opportunities for advancement. There is a new job for you in the near future of which I can see you will excel at and enjoy.

I met a man that I instantly felt an almighty connection to. I have never been really been into relationships after coming out of a 16 year abusive marriage. I just never saw myself with anyone. Until I met him, he has never left my thoughts not even for a second in the past year. We have met and had some lovely times together, we have been intimate quite a bit, and we just click on a way where everything is forgotten. But he had major issues with a past love, he was engaged, very in love and then left days before the wedding. This means that when anyone gets close and he starts to develop feelings he pulls back and runs out of fear. But when he lets me in its amazing, until he goes missing again for a few days and then seems over happy to see me again .My question is can he or will he ever be with me properly.

I can see that this man in your life in no way means to hurt you and when he goes quiet there is always a 'trigger' that sub consciously seems to go off and the only way that he appears to be able to deal with this is to suddenly be silent which must be incredibly frustrating for you. You yourself have had a difficult relationship and it has been a very brave step for you to allow yourself to get involved with another man again but you have been very strong and brave to do so otherwise it would have held you back in life for the rest of your life. Sadly this man has not been able to do the same and he is weaker than you and in all honesty I can see that you have had the harder times out of the pair of you but you have dealt with it in a different way. This relationship can stand the test of time but I am being shown that this man will need some professional help in order to sort out the way that he feels about relationships in general and to try to overcome his fear, once he can tackle this then this relationship will move in a very positive direction. As long as he takes the option to have some form of help then this relationship can be long lasting into the future.

Hi. I am 37 years old and I was involved in 2 short term relationships in 2014. I was wondering if I would have any potential female interest for 2015? My main social activity is running around my neighbourhood for exercise where I do encounter many people so I was wondering if there is any potential interest either there or elsewhere? Thank you for your time.

I can see that there is going to be a new love interest for you and it appears to be around late summer. I am being shown that this happens out of the blue and it is during a normal day to day routine that you meet her. She is someone who is very loyal and has not dated for some time and this has been out of her choice. This relationship will be at first be on a friendship level and there are some things that you have in common that you both enjoy there appears to be some common ground, as time goes on this develops into love. Stay as positive as you can because if you think that love will never find you it won’t be assured that 2015 brings in a good solid relationship for you.

I am so scunnered with my job and have been for some time now. My husband has suggested looking for another job but I feel I my career no longer interests me and has served it's purpose. I have been looking into training in a totally different field to what I have been doing but unsure which path to take. I am also a bit scared of making the wrong decision with a new venture. Help!

The career that you are currently in has now run its course and I feel that you will look "outside of the box" to see what else is on offer and this is the right pathway to go. There is a new opportunity that will come your way and this seems to be over the summertime of this year. You will be rather hesitant at first but after doing some research and also encouragement from your husband you do decide to take a giant leap into the unknown. This is not anything to be worried about at all as I see that you will have a new lease of life once you have found your niche. There are new skills to be learned and this is something that you will embrace and learn very quickly.

There are some good and exciting and interesting times ahead of you a career change is the correct decision for you. You will make the right decision as it just 'feels right'.

I have been told to leave my home of nearly eight years by June. Although I feel that I need to move anyway as I’ve never really been happy where I am and my daughter left last year, im also terrified as I’m just about making ends meet financially and can’t find anything in my price range except a room. I’m trying to stay positive but I don’t know if I’m fooling myself I'll be ok because the alternative is making me so depressed and desperate.

I can see that this is a really difficult time for you and loosing you home is a scary prospect, however, it is destiny and meant to be and the move although you find this daunting right now is going to end up much better than you expected, there appears to be two moves of homes for you and the initial one is somewhere that looks to be quite small and could be a room but this is only a short term situation as another opportunity for something better comes along in the meantime, this property is bigger and will be what you are ideally looking for, I do see that your move will open up a new life for you in as much you make new friends and there is a busier social life ahead of you and you need never feel lonely. There is also romance showing up for you later on this year with someone who really will understand and care.