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Hi Angie, I was involved in a long distance relationship of sorts across the Atlantic for about a year (someone I met on holiday). For the first time in years I felt as though I had a good connection with someone, and when he visited for a couple of weeks we got on so well. The relationship came to an abrupt end when he declared that he didn't want either of us to have expectations that one would eventually move for the other. I ended it there and the whole experience gave me such a big knock in confidence when I had been trying to convince myself that I deserved happiness, as previously I usually got involved with guys I wasn't that interested in as I thought I couldn't do any better. I'd really like to know why he let what we had go or was I actually aiming for someone I didn't deserve?

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Hi, Often in long distant relationship everything is great when you do get together, the times when you are apart you tend to trudge through, and these times are not always so great. Also the times when you are together is wonderful and in essence you can block out what is dysfunctional in the hope that the glitches that you encounter are only due to the fact that you are not in the same place. This man originally went with the flow and he did have feelings for you and the fact that he ended it was not your fault, he just decided to look at the relationship in a very black and white way and after much thought he decided that there was no way he was going to give up his life as he knows it and move nearer to you and he did not expect you to move nearer to him. This man does appear to have an issue regarding commitment and even if you had given up everything and moved nearer to him he could not have handled the guilt that you had sacrificed so much to be with him only to find it was not working out. I feel in a way that you did know this man but you did not really know him and the part that you were not aware of was his weak side, and it was so much easier for him to quit this relationship rather than carry it on sadly. This man came to the conclusion not put himself through the long periods of time without you. I can see that he has been thinking whether the effort to make this long distant relationship work was worth it. Sadly he decided it was not, he found that the longer it was endured the more taxing the effect on his mind and body would be. You have not been aiming for something that you did not deserve it was just that he could not handle or see a future for you together and he felt it kinder to call it a day, this is all really raw right now but this will subside and you will feel a connection again with a new man that is much closer to home.. Try not to worry your confidence will return again and you will be ready to date again and next time it really does work out for you.

Angie
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Hi, Often in long distant relationship everything is great when you do get together, the times when you are apart you tend to trudge through, and these times are not always so great. Also the times when you are together is wonderful and in essence you can block out what is dysfunctional in the hope that the glitches that you encounter are only due to the fact that you are not in the same place. This man originally went with the flow and he did have feelings for you and the fact that he ended it was not your fault, he just decided to look at the relationship in a very black and white way and after much thought he decided that there was no way he was going to give up his life as he knows it and move nearer to you and he did not expect you to move nearer to him. This man does appear to have an issue regarding commitment and even if you had given up everything and moved nearer to him he could not have handled the guilt that you had sacrificed so much to be with him only to find it was not working out. I feel in a way that you did know this man but you did not really know him and the part that you were not aware of was his weak side, and it was so much easier for him to quit this relationship rather than carry it on sadly. This man came to the conclusion not put himself through the long periods of time without you. I can see that he has been thinking whether the effort to make this long distant relationship work was worth it. Sadly he decided it was not, he found that the longer it was endured the more taxing the effect on his mind and body would be. You have not been aiming for something that you did not deserve it was just that he could not handle or see a future for you together and he felt it kinder to call it a day, this is all really raw right now but this will subside and you will feel a connection again with a new man that is much closer to home.. Try not to worry your confidence will return again and you will be ready to date again and next time it really does work out for you.

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