Can I ever be with him

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"I met a man that I instantly felt an almighty connection to. I have never been really been into relationships after coming out of a 16 year abusive marriage. I just never saw myself with anyone. Until I met him, he has never left my thoughts not even for a second in the past year. We have met and had some lovely times together, we have been intimate quite a bit, and we just click on a way where everything is forgotten. But he had major issues with a past love, he was engaged, very in love and then left days before the wedding. This means that when anyone gets close and he starts to develop feelings he pulls back and runs out of fear. But when he lets me in its amazing, until he goes missing again for a few days and then seems over happy to see me again .My question is can he or will he ever be with me properly. "

I can see that this man in your life in no way means to hurt you and when he goes quiet there is always a trigger that sub consciously seems to go off and the only way that he appears to be able to deal with this is to suddenly be silent which must be incredibly frustrating for you. You yourself have had a difficult relationship and it has been a very brave step for you to allow yourself to get involved with another man again but you have been very strong and brave to do so otherwise it would have held you back in life for the rest of your life. Sadly this man has not been able to do the same and he is weaker than you and in all honesty I can see that you have had the harder times out of the pair of you but you have dealt with it in a different way. This relationship can stand the test of time but I am being shown that this man will need some professional help in order to sort out the way that he feels about relationships in general and to try to overcome his fear, once he can tackle this then this relationship will move in a very positive direction. As long as he takes the option to have some form of help then this relationship can be long lasting into the future.
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