Can I ever be with him

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"I met a man that I instantly felt an almighty connection to. I have never been really been into relationships after coming out of a 16 year abusive marriage. I just never saw myself with anyone. Until I met him, he has never left my thoughts not even for a second in the past year. We have met and had some lovely times together, we have been intimate quite a bit, and we just click on a way where everything is forgotten. But he had major issues with a past love, he was engaged, very in love and then left days before the wedding. This means that when anyone gets close and he starts to develop feelings he pulls back and runs out of fear. But when he lets me in its amazing, until he goes missing again for a few days and then seems over happy to see me again .My question is can he or will he ever be with me properly. "

I can see that this man in your life in no way means to hurt you and when he goes quiet there is always a trigger that sub consciously seems to go off and the only way that he appears to be able to deal with this is to suddenly be silent which must be incredibly frustrating for you. You yourself have had a difficult relationship and it has been a very brave step for you to allow yourself to get involved with another man again but you have been very strong and brave to do so otherwise it would have held you back in life for the rest of your life. Sadly this man has not been able to do the same and he is weaker than you and in all honesty I can see that you have had the harder times out of the pair of you but you have dealt with it in a different way. This relationship can stand the test of time but I am being shown that this man will need some professional help in order to sort out the way that he feels about relationships in general and to try to overcome his fear, once he can tackle this then this relationship will move in a very positive direction. As long as he takes the option to have some form of help then this relationship can be long lasting into the future.
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I have been told to leave my home of nearly eight years by June. Although I feel that I need to move anyway as I’ve never really been happy where I am and my daughter left last year, im also terrified as I’m just about making ends meet financially and can’t find anything in my price range except a room. I’m trying to stay positive but I don’t know if I’m fooling myself I'll be ok because the alternative is making me so depressed and desperate.

I can see that this is a really difficult time for you and loosing you home is a scary prospect, however, it is destiny and meant to be and the move although you find this daunting right now is going to end up much better than you expected, there appears to be two moves of homes for you and the initial one is somewhere that looks to be quite small and could be a room but this is only a short term situation as another opportunity for something better comes along in the meantime, this property is bigger and will be what you are ideally looking for, I do see that your move will open up a new life for you in as much you make new friends and there is a busier social life ahead of you and you need never feel lonely. There is also romance showing up for you later on this year with someone who really will understand and care.

I have been single for nearly 5 years now and I don’t often get the chance to go out as I have children. I just want someone to go out and enjoy life with who has good morals. Will I ever find my “one” or will I always be single?

I am being shown that there is going to be a new male in your life and as a guideline it will be towards the colder months of this year. This is a man who also has been single for some time now and he will be looking for a serious relationship. He is a 'steady' man and you do meet him when you are out socially. He is a man that is loyal and he will treat you well. There are some wonderful times ahead of you. He is really going to make you feel alive and he is the sort of man that cares deeply about people that are important to him, you will become one of those people in time. Ultimately, all this man is looking for is love and appreciation. When you first meet this man there is going to be an instant attraction towards each other. Later on during 2015 your single days will soon be over.

Hi. I am returning to work in a competitive field after 6 years away from the workplace on account of various factors - my own serious illness and also that of my mother's whom I helped to care for. I used to be very good at my job but my confidence has taken a knock and although I plan to go on a refresher course and do some work experience I am really worried about whether I will be able to cut it this time around. What do you think? Thank you.

Firstly, I am not being shown any major issues regarding your new job and the people that have offered you this opportunity are more than confident that you are the correct person for this role, they have taken all things into account and are not expecting you to work miracles. You are going to find that there will be plenty of help and support for you in this role and you really have nothing to fear at all.

 

The feelings of lack of confidence are natural ones and I do see that as time goes on this will grow so much so that you will feel as though you have never been out of the work place. The refresher course will be a good move for you and this will also help with your confidence levels. Give yourself time do not be hard on yourself and you will be as good at your job as you always were.

 

 

I have always followed my family’s principles and worked hard all my life. I have never succeeded in relationships so my personal life is about my work and career. I have struggled now for several years to keep up with things on my own and want to dispose or find a better way of life. How can I attract what I need into my life now as I feel trapped in my ways?

 

Firstly, always follow your dreams and try to stay positive that you can succeed in anything that you wish to achieve even in the personal side of your life.

 

The law of attraction states that anything negative or positive in your life as in an event was attracted by you. The best way to attract what it is that you really want and need is to clear your mind until you are feeling really relaxed and be very specific as to what it is you are wanting this thought/request. Then send it out to the universe and in time, it will respond to your thoughts. If you are not clear to what it is you really want the universe will get it mixed up and then send you unwanted results. Try to be as enthusiastic as you can. It is advisable to write your wish down and write it in the present tense as though you would like it now, deeply imagine this all happening for you. Trust the universe, show gratitude and remember that things do not always happen straight away and do not worry about how it is going to happen as this will then be negative and will show lack of faith.

 

As long as you remain focused on what it is you are trying to achieve, you will find that you do have the better life and the one that you have attracted.

 

I once had my own brand but since my mother died 2 years ago, a lot has happened which has caused me to slow down, be more "realistic" and get a job that pays. I admit to slightly having settled to a life that's easier as my quest to establish myself in the industry brought me so many challenges. I know it sounds weird but after giving birth to my 2nd child, I felt that I need to go back in the game and pursue my dreams of having my own brand again. I know it doesn't make much sense since I need a stable income, but do you think I'd be able to earn and be more stable, while taking care of my 2 children who I plan to bring both back to the UK this year? I feel left behind by the competition.

 

Pursuing your dream of having your own brand again is not out of the question, but I am being shown that it will be even tougher than it was when you went into the industry in the beginning, and it may well upset your work/life balance so please bear this in mind.

 

In order to survive and maintain a stable income for a number of years I can see you having to juggle two jobs, a job with a reliable income and your dream of your brand. This would be a major challenge for you and some days you will feel that you have figured it all out whereas others you will feel as though you do not have control either at work or at home. You would need to lose the guilt of not being able to spend as much time as you would wish with your children, I can see that it would be quite a balancing act whilst difficult it will be worth it in as much it will mean you have two very distinct areas of your life that can bring you satisfaction but prepared that this will take time and will not be an overnight success.

 

 

My mother is 99 and lives on Ireland. Last week she fell and broke her hip so I am going over to see her tomorrow for a few days. Now my mum is a strong feisty woman but she is also very frail and she also has brittle bone disease. I have a sister who is very bossy and controlling. My mum lives with her in a granny flat. My sister is insisting when she comes out of hospital that she and the family will care for her. She wants to bring her straight home. She will not pay for nursing care as she says it is too expensive although I know mum has the money to pay for it. I know she want to get me involved as she says it is my duty. I am very worried about this as I am not a nurse. I can give her love and moral support but I cannot nurse her. I am very depressed about my trip there as I feel she will put the pressure to get me involved. By the way my sister works and so does her daughter. So who will look after Mother then and I am fearful of something happening to her because of this. I am extremely worried.

I am being shown that the real reason for your sister to insist that that the family will care for her rather than expert care is all connected to money. I can see that your sister has high expectations for you to do your share of the work regarding your mother. You will need to stand strong where this is concerned and it may be wise to really talk to the medical profession to see what they feel is right for you mum and to also make them aware that with both your sister and her daughter working there would be times when your mum would be left to fend for herself.. I am being shown that your sister is really adamant no matter what is said that she will have it her way and she is actually setting herself up to fail, and your sister is going to have to admit defeat as she will not cope with this situation. It is important to get all the facts and also talk to your mum to ascertain what it is she wants and the money side is the second thing that needs to be thought about as your mum and her welfare is the priority here. Resist the pressure to agree to something that you are not wishing to do, in time they will realize that they have taken on more than they expect and then they will re-think things to the way that you wanted it in the first instance.


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