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Hello. I very recently lost my dad to that horrible disease cancer 10 weeks ago. I watched this man, my idol, deteriorate over 6 months and die at home with his loving family around him. As anyone knows who has gone or is going through it that it's probably one of the worst things to experience in anyone's lifetime. I just need to know if he's ok? I dream about him all the time and in some of my dreams he appears angry with me. Why? I'm struggling to cope at the moment and I know I'm probably just going through the grieving process; he's on my mind constantly. I get angry, upset, happy and hysterical all within a few minutes of each other. Do you think I haven't done something? It's just really bothering me at the moment, even counselling isn't helping. I loved my dad to the ends of the earth and would hate to think I've let him down in some way. Thank you. C X

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Hi. Firstly, you have not let your dad down in any shape or form. It is always hard for someone to lose a parent, remember you have had your dad in your life all of your life, and it is only natural that you feel so lost and lonely and do not know which way to turn. Bereavement is a process that you need to go through. There are stages of bereavement, and it is important to find ways to mourn your loss and your grief. The best way to deal with this is to sadly accept that your loss has really happened; there is always pain that comes with grief. Trying to adjust to life without the person that has passed to spirit is really hard. Try to put less emotional energy into your grief and think of all the lovely times and memories that you have with your dad who is so so precious to you, and also realise that nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. This man is not angry with you, he is around you and he tries to show you, but your grief (quite naturally so) is stopping you from realising this, your dad really is in spirit and all his pain and illness has gone now. There is no way at all that you have let him down, you were there for him right up until the end, he knows you love him unconditionally and that is what matters. Your dad tries to come to you in your dreams and when you are awake the grief takes over your innermost thoughts and feelings but he is there for you. I feel that you will see a few signs from him in the next few weeks Your mixed emotions that come all at once is natural, it is a process that you need to go through to get this awful loss in the right box in your head, and don't forget you are allowed to cry, there is not shame in this. He is your dad, the one and only dad and no one and nothing can change this. Keep talking about this man and I feel that this will really really help you. There are of course others around you feeling as sad and lost and lonely as you. You can never expect to stop missing your dad, but with enough time and enough support, a new life can be put back together piece by piece, and purpose can be reclaimed. The old saying of time can heal really is the case here and you need to allow yourself to go through the natural grieving process and the reason you grieve is due to the fact you love your dad so very much. You dad is well now and that is so much better for you to know than to see him deteriorate to such a cruel illness. You cannot expect life to ever be the same again but you will learn to live with this sorrow and replace the sad feelings you have with all the happy and treasured memories of the life he has given you, and also words that you say to your own children that sound just as your dad would say it. He is not gone from you, he is just a whisper away from you.

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Hi. Firstly, you have not let your dad down in any shape or form. It is always hard for someone to lose a parent, remember you have had your dad in your life all of your life, and it is only natural that you feel so lost and lonely and do not know which way to turn. Bereavement is a process that you need to go through. There are stages of bereavement, and it is important to find ways to mourn your loss and your grief. The best way to deal with this is to sadly accept that your loss has really happened; there is always pain that comes with grief. Trying to adjust to life without the person that has passed to spirit is really hard. Try to put less emotional energy into your grief and think of all the lovely times and memories that you have with your dad who is so so precious to you, and also realise that nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. This man is not angry with you, he is around you and he tries to show you, but your grief (quite naturally so) is stopping you from realising this, your dad really is in spirit and all his pain and illness has gone now. There is no way at all that you have let him down, you were there for him right up until the end, he knows you love him unconditionally and that is what matters. Your dad tries to come to you in your dreams and when you are awake the grief takes over your innermost thoughts and feelings but he is there for you. I feel that you will see a few signs from him in the next few weeks Your mixed emotions that come all at once is natural, it is a process that you need to go through to get this awful loss in the right box in your head, and don't forget you are allowed to cry, there is not shame in this. He is your dad, the one and only dad and no one and nothing can change this. Keep talking about this man and I feel that this will really really help you. There are of course others around you feeling as sad and lost and lonely as you. You can never expect to stop missing your dad, but with enough time and enough support, a new life can be put back together piece by piece, and purpose can be reclaimed. The old saying of time can heal really is the case here and you need to allow yourself to go through the natural grieving process and the reason you grieve is due to the fact you love your dad so very much. You dad is well now and that is so much better for you to know than to see him deteriorate to such a cruel illness. You cannot expect life to ever be the same again but you will learn to live with this sorrow and replace the sad feelings you have with all the happy and treasured memories of the life he has given you, and also words that you say to your own children that sound just as your dad would say it. He is not gone from you, he is just a whisper away from you.

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