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I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and we're both very happy together. However, I find that I never have the desire to be intimate with him. Sometimes we are but it can be months in between each encounter. Like I said I'm very happy with him and he is happy with me but I feel there must be something wrong with me, I've been intimate with other boyfriends so I'm not sure why I don't feel the same in this relationship. I don't want to lose him. Any advice would be appreciated. Love and light.

In a realistic way being intimate is a big part of any relationship but if you are in the midst of a dry spell then it does not mean that you are heading to split up. At times the lack of being intimate can be down to stress. I can see that this man does still love you anyway but he would like to get the physical side of your relationship back on track and I sense that he is going to suggest that you both may need to go for outside help and he will assure you that in no way does he want to put the blame on you whatsoever.

With the help that you have as a couple I am being shown that you are going to have a long and loving relationship.

I came out of a long term relationship earlier this year and have since found out my partner is moving overseas. This has left me feeling really upset even though I know it's probably for the best. I have shared finances with my ex that are soon to be resolved and this is the only time we now have any contact. Do you see us being able to eventually have a friendship later down than line as things are still very strained between us now? In addition to this another ex who I had a brief fling with recently, has contacted me several times afterwards (even though it ended between us because she cheated on me) I do not trust her and I wanted to know what her motives are? I have completely blocked this ex from my life and yet she still contacted me several times since we finished. I have tried to stay strong and keep her away from me as she is still with her girlfriend and I choose not to be the second option in her life. I am completely drained from the failure and breakdown and rejection of these relationships and wondered if I will ever be able to start again and trust someone new? Any guidance would be appreciated. lnl xx

Firstly I sense great sadness with you regarding the ex that is relocating and she will start a totally new life, although this is rather strained right now time will heal the situation and you will hear from her again but it looks as though it would be years rather than months and it would just be for a catch up to see how you are doing and it could be a long time again before you hear from her. The ex that you have tried to block from your life seems to be at an all-time low and this is the reason that she has tried to reconnect with you, however this person has not changed at all and it is wise to keep away from her as she is not the one to make you happy and it is important to keep your distance from her. You are going to start again and 2017 looks to be a very positive year for you when you have someone that is loyal and patient and has your best interests at heart. There are some wonderful times in front of you as you leave the past well and truly behind you, it is history of which you are unable to change.

Hi, I have an issue where my family and I aren’t close. I’m expecting again and wanted to ask my aunt to be a god parent. In the mean time she lost her son tragically. Should I still ask her or will the pain of the son be too much??

This is a very delicate situation indeed and your aunt is naturally devastated that she has lost her son and is still trying to heal from this.

The way that you word your request is of uttermost importance, start with asking how she is feeling these days and obviously the response is going to be that she is finding life very hard at the moment. It would be ideal if you could talk to her face to face and almost prepare the groundwork, ring her and say you would like to see her as you have something to ask her and it is nothing bad, but it is important to you.

This will prepare her that you are visiting for a reason and I am being shown that she will be delighted that you have asked her and it will give her something to look forward too.

I fought with my boyfriend as I felt the relationship wasn't moving quickly enough. I said some terrible things to him that just aren't true. Everything I do to make things better seems to make them worse. Will he forgive me and give me another chance?

Everyone says things in temper that they really do not mean. However, the fact does remain that people do tend to remember the bad things said rather than the good. Your boyfriend was rather surprised at your outburst and although there are feelings for you he felt that the argument was unfounded, and he is one of life's plodders and would have always got to a point you wanted to be in the end. He really does not see that he has done anything wrong and finds it hard to digest some of the things that were said by you, with this in mind I am sorry to say I am not being shown that he is willing to give you another chance as he is very hurt right now and words do go deep with this man. 

I recently split with my partner and it was a rough ride. A guy at work comforted me and I developed feelings for him. He recently split with his partner to and is interested in starting something, I am too. The problem is that my manger has also stated that he has feelings for me and he hates this other guy. I don't have feelings for my manger but now I'm afraid to start anything with the guy I like in case it has a negative impact on my career. What should I do?

It is time to take control of this situation and let your manager know that you have no interest in dating him although he will not be happy about your decision this is something that he will accept due to the fact you have chosen to be honest with him. It seems as though the guy that you are interested is genuine and would treat you well and it would be unwise to put this on hold because of how your manager may feel. Your manager has sensed that this guy likes you hence the hatred he has shown towards him this is just mere jealousy. It would be wise to keep the relationship quiet from the Manager and I am not being shown that this will hinder your career. It is now time to take some positive steps please bear in mind that basically if you did like your manager and he liked another woman he would not hesitate to date her no matter how you were feeling.

Not sure if whether stay in a relationship with a man I love but offers no future or financial support into the relationship or move back to my parents house and start all over again?

The issue is one of compatibility and it appears that this man seems to be at ease with the way things are in your relationship and therefore, has no intention of ever changing. This in turn is not what you are looking for and the lack of financial support is a heavy one on you. If you are unable to see yourself with this man in ten years’ time bearing in mind he remains as he is now, then it is the time to move away from this situation and start a new life all of your own. It will come as a shock to your partner but even so not enough for him to make changes.