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Hi I've been on my own for 6 long years as I had came out of a very bad emotional/psychological relationship with an ex, during that time I have managed to get myself a new job and balance my life. I have recently dated someone reluctantly through internet dating and now that has failed I even went on holiday had a holiday romance stayed in touch with the person, but has now made the decision to end the affair because it is just to one-sided, he lives abroad I live here in London, just can't afford the expense. So now once again I am on my own. I have planned another holiday of which I look forward to in the autumn will I eventually find someone interesting and stimulating?

Hello Marie, You are a woman of substance for sure as you have you have come a long way for with all the issues that you have had to deal with. I feel that you are much stronger than you were when you were in the emotionally challenged relationship. I feel that the internet dating may not suit you in all honesty it does suit some people but I am picking up that it may not be ideal thing for you. I feel that you are going to meet someone in a face to face situation and this I can see will be much better for you. The holiday romance was romantic but it was what it was, when on holiday people tend to act differently than at home. Being in a relaxed atmosphere away from your daily stresses and worries can make you do things you wouldn't normally do. Once you feel physically and emotionally relaxed, you see things in a completely different light, for example, that is when you might consider getting close to someone on holiday, even if it's the last thing you thought you'd ever do. The holiday that you have already planned during the autumn months will be very good for you but I get the feeling that this new man will already be known to you by then. This man you meet in a normal daily routine and he simply will just start to chat to you. He is single educated and very interesting indeed to talk too. I can see that being on your own is not something that you really like but you do 'just get on with it', however being alone has had it's advantages as it has given you space and time to think and now you know more or less what you are looking for in a man. There is a new love for you with a man who really does care about you and he will make you feel special, the summer months do look positive for you. This man is down to earth and does not make promises that he is unable to keep. You are going to happier than you ever have before in a relationship and it all changes for you this year, the 6 years alone has been challenging for you but it has given you time to be yourself and get your self esteem and confidence back which I feel that you almost lost with the difficult man that you became involved with, he seemed okay at one time but it turned out that you did not really know him at all. The main thing is you managed to escape him and re-started your life again. There is more settlement around you and I feel that your new relationship will really be a balanced one where you will be truly loved and you really will feel this.

I met Michael on match and he seems very very sweet and romantic, we chatted for 2 weeks and he stated all these wonderful life plans, and he thinks that I'm the one. He booked his entire August off because he wanted to come with me when I go to Florence, Italy for a month. We met after 2 weeks, everything was so great he was still very romantic and he even said I'm his last date. Then we had our first argument (a rather silly one), and everything changed. He is still very caring, prepares my breakfast before he goes to work when I stay overnight, but you can feel that he's no longer that romantic. We went out on Wednesday and everything was so fun (or at least that's what I thought) and because of the wine we ordered, I was a bit tipsy and he walked so fast I got lost at a station. When I found him, he pushed me (rather gently, like a nudge) to the stairs and said he doesn't want to go home with me because I never really want to go with him, when in fact It was just a simple mistake of being drunk! He never replied to my messages and we haven't talked for 2 days. Do you think it's over or will we get to settle our differences and talk it out? If it was my fault I would've gone to his house and apologised but it wasn't. I miss the romantic and sweet side of him. I don't even know if he really wants to be with me or if we made a mistake.

Hi. I can see that Michael is a really nice man, he is also a sensitive man, which makes him really romantic. Once he met you after your long chats on the dating site he really felt a strong ''bond'' between you. This man I pick up has got an issue with alcohol and I feel that there has been an abusive relationship and this was linked to a drinking problem, but he was not the drinker. I can see that when you inadvertently got drunk it brought back some memories of which he would rather forget. This man is a really sensitive man about alcohol and I can see that in a way this relationship has moved a lot quicker than he had expected even though he was the one with all the ''forward plans''. Most couples have fights once in a while, but you need to look beneath these arguments as there is something underlying with this man of which he has not told you as yet and once you know the real reason you can move on with this relationship. This man does sulk, and part of him not answering your messages is almost like punishing you, he does have some childish behaviour from time to time. I do feel that this will all blow over and you will settle your differences I am pleased to say. Talk calmly and listen to each other so you can try not to let the fight happen again. If he says that he has needed space then allow him this. The best way forward is to learn from these arguments and, if you were to keep repeating the same arguments it will be because there's some way in which you keep these issues going without realising it. Always try to listen to what he has to say. If you don't then it will just lead to another break up and when you start to get things back on track remember to keep a level head. Your only motive is to make things better and be happy again. I feel that this man will contact you very soon now and there is a good future ahead of you.

Hello. I very recently lost my dad to that horrible disease cancer 10 weeks ago. I watched this man, my idol, deteriorate over 6 months and die at home with his loving family around him. As anyone knows who has gone or is going through it that it's probably one of the worst things to experience in anyone's lifetime. I just need to know if he's ok? I dream about him all the time and in some of my dreams he appears angry with me. Why? I'm struggling to cope at the moment and I know I'm probably just going through the grieving process; he's on my mind constantly. I get angry, upset, happy and hysterical all within a few minutes of each other. Do you think I haven't done something? It's just really bothering me at the moment, even counselling isn't helping. I loved my dad to the ends of the earth and would hate to think I've let him down in some way. Thank you. C X

Hi. Firstly, you have not let your dad down in any shape or form. It is always hard for someone to lose a parent, remember you have had your dad in your life all of your life, and it is only natural that you feel so lost and lonely and do not know which way to turn. Bereavement is a process that you need to go through. There are stages of bereavement, and it is important to find ways to mourn your loss and your grief. The best way to deal with this is to sadly accept that your loss has really happened; there is always pain that comes with grief. Trying to adjust to life without the person that has passed to spirit is really hard. Try to put less emotional energy into your grief and think of all the lovely times and memories that you have with your dad who is so so precious to you, and also realise that nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. This man is not angry with you, he is around you and he tries to show you, but your grief (quite naturally so) is stopping you from realising this, your dad really is in spirit and all his pain and illness has gone now. There is no way at all that you have let him down, you were there for him right up until the end, he knows you love him unconditionally and that is what matters. Your dad tries to come to you in your dreams and when you are awake the grief takes over your innermost thoughts and feelings but he is there for you. I feel that you will see a few signs from him in the next few weeks Your mixed emotions that come all at once is natural, it is a process that you need to go through to get this awful loss in the right box in your head, and don't forget you are allowed to cry, there is not shame in this. He is your dad, the one and only dad and no one and nothing can change this. Keep talking about this man and I feel that this will really really help you. There are of course others around you feeling as sad and lost and lonely as you. You can never expect to stop missing your dad, but with enough time and enough support, a new life can be put back together piece by piece, and purpose can be reclaimed. The old saying of time can heal really is the case here and you need to allow yourself to go through the natural grieving process and the reason you grieve is due to the fact you love your dad so very much. You dad is well now and that is so much better for you to know than to see him deteriorate to such a cruel illness. You cannot expect life to ever be the same again but you will learn to live with this sorrow and replace the sad feelings you have with all the happy and treasured memories of the life he has given you, and also words that you say to your own children that sound just as your dad would say it. He is not gone from you, he is just a whisper away from you.

Can you tell me about soul mates please? I am having a relationship with a man who I believe is my soul mate, but we spend a lot of time apart. I find the relationship very intense and draining because I need to be with him. I have been told in several readings this is because we are soul mates. Is this a common feeling if you have found a soul mate and does it mean that your relationship is going to be a good one?

Hi, A soul mate is a person who you have a natural affinity with and you just seem to get along and almost know what the other person is going to say or finish off their sentences when they are speaking. It can also mean that the relationship is intense as when you are not with each other it does feel as though a part of you is missing and you feel quite lost and lonely at times. I can see that the time apart is beginning to become a bigger problem and also exhausting for the both of you, and the feeling of the intensity and feeling drained is also natural, as really you need to be together as you do not function too well without each other. I feel however, in order to overcome this you do need to have your own life too, your own places to go and your own friends, even if you were living together this would be a good idea as it is not totally good to be reliant on each other you both need to cope with your own set of space from time to time. This relationship will be a good one for sure, you just need to find a balance and need to have a very frank talk with each other of how these times apart are making you both feel. This should be easy to do, as you are soul mates you should be able to discuss anything openly. If you ever do start to question if this is your soul mate just look at the person that you are closest to which is him. Soul mates are brought into your life to help you grow and expand your life, as they give you the confidence to do so. All through our lives we come in contact with many people, some we are attracted to others we are not and I do feel that you have found yours. Your soul mate is someone who you will be able to grow with and this does not always come easy, he will challenge you in many ways from time to time. The time has come now in the next six to twelve months to discuss how you can be together more often as you are soul mates I do feel that you should be able to work through these issues and the trauma of being apart will ease in time, especially when you can see a way forward of a time when it will not always be like this. This relationship will all balance out given time and you are really honoured to have found this man as your soul mate as this is something that sadly others do not get the opportunity to ever experience in their lifetime.

Hi, I feel I am very distant sometimes from my family… I want to build the bridge and become close again as we were when we were younger, how do I go about that?

Hello Emily, This is something that is going to need to build and it may take a while to be closer to them all once again but I feel that this is certainly something that can become reality with a little bit of work and patience. Firstly do not force this upon them otherwise they will start to hate it, this has to be done softly and communication is of utmost importance. Initially you need to look at the real reason that there is this distance between you, and work out ways to resolve these issues. At times some things cannot always be fixed, some people are difficult as they are deeply troubled and they have a lack of being able to resolve issues with others. I can see that there is one member of your family that is more difficult to handle that the rest, this is the one that may try for a while to resist the hand of friendship that you try to offer. This is all going to be about compromise, and all families do experience problems and face challenges at some time or another. One of the main things in order to be close to your family once again is not to be scared this may be quite a tough time for you but stay brave as you can and you will fix it. I feel that it will be best to be honest and open with all your family members in order to turn this around and you will find that this will be appreciated and the relationship with your family will build and build. I cannot guarantee that it will be the same as when you were younger as you are grown up and have your own personalities, but I do for see that you will have a balance relationship with your family, the main key to this working, is once you have made contact and good progress keep the lines of communication open, ring at least one of them or visit if you are able once a week, keep yourself in the loop and you will see that the effort that you are making will be reciprocated.

Can you tell me do we pick our pets on a spiritual level? I find myself with a 9 week old puppy yet I have never wanted pets before due to my busy life style. I have watched him with my 2 children and around the home and he fits in like he has always been here and was made for my family!

Hi, Thank you for you interesting question and yes pets that you pick are on a spiritual level and this is why your puppy is so happy and relaxed around your family life as it is in tune with your family. This puppy is going to be very therapeutic for your family and really does belong with you. The spiritual link between your family and the puppy you are not meant to understand it, just to learn and grow with it. Pets demonstrate spiritual qualities, unconditional love, joy, and creativity. The bond between a pet and his/her owner is often deep and profound. Animals resonate with us in a deep way that few humans can. This is due to the fact that animals do not have an ego. They don't have obstacles in the way of their love and their connection with the divine. They love unconditionally and are constantly doing good for us in ways we often do not recognise. We may feed them, groom them, take them to the vet, and in return they soothe our souls in a subtle, but perceptible way. Enjoy this new addition to your family and remember it will love you unconditionally too.