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Hi, I have a tough choice in my life to make. I can take a large financial risk to start my own website or I can move somewhere new to work with animals which would make me happy but would not pay well. The website has huge potential to make money but ultimately I fear I would not get the fulfilment I would from working with animals. There is also no guarantee it would work and could end in a huge loss. Although working with animals would make me happy I would never earn the kind of money I'd want to for my family. What should I do?

Hi Robin, I can see how difficult that this is for you and it is always great to be able to do a job that you enjoy, however unfortunately money seems to be a main factor that also drives our lives and I feel that if you were to take a job working with animals the lack of money coming in would have a huge impact on your family life and this would pressure on your relationship. I can see that there is a risk with the new business adventure as with any new business but I feel that potentially this can really work out for you, I feel that in time you can realise both of your dreams, in as much go ahead with you business venture and earn the money that you need to live and maybe you would consider working voluntarily from time to time with animals if you chose to do this on an unpaid basis there is no pressure on you, as you will be very busy with your own business. There will be other opportunities to spend time with the animals that you so love and enrich your life, with the money that you make in later years you may be considering buying a small holding which will house all the animals that you love to spend time with. You are an intelligent and a hard working man and I do feel that anything that you put your mind to, you can achieve, and there will be balance in your working life taking the big step with your own business venture will enable you to earn the money that you need and in time also include your passion to spend time around animals, If you were to just concentrate on working with animals only, and give up your business idea, then I feel that you will not be as settled and happy as you expect to be as it would put pressure on your family and this could lead to many arguments. I can see that you do come to the right decision for you.

I sometimes think about getting back with my ex but when we were together I was unhappy. I find it hard to let go because we still speak occasionally. Should I cut him out of my life so I can get over him or should I try and rekindle the flame?

Hello Melissa Single life can make an ex seem pretty good but getting back together is not often the best choice of action. In a way this relationship has run its course and it is over. Everything that did not work in your relationship before, be it cheating, dishonesty, lack of trust, and even respect has not changed. If you find yourself saying maybe just maybe things will be different this time, you are not alone, this is very common but you also need to ask is your ex also thinking the very same thing? Would you be in agreement on how things would need to change in the relationship before you give it another go? All these things do need to be considered before you enter into another relationship with this man, and if any of the answers come up as a no, then this is not worth going back to. You have survived the split and you have also worked through the pain you could be stronger now than you ever have before despite all this your ex is still trying to re connect with you. Regardless of the reasons why you broke up going back into a relationship without examining it ,will become just an opportunity to replay the exact same failure second time round. I feel that it would be much better for you to cut this man out of your life, and this will help you to move on and there will be someone new sooner than you think. I just feel that going back you will just re live the unhappiness that you experienced before.

I know what I want to do and how I want my life to be I just don’t know how to begin to change things especially in regards to my career. I'm starting to think positive and have started to apply for jobs but everything seems to be a dead end and I’m worried that I will stay stuck in the job I hate and it will be another year of my life wasted x

I can see that your current job is really getting you down and you are doing the correct thing in trying to move on. The wrong job can really bring you low; I do see that being in the right job will make you very happy indeed. You know that you are unhappy in your job when you feel unmotivated, and you seek out diversions. You are doing the correct thing by finding what opportunities exist ideally to a higher paying job. Think about the things that you know you are good at, also bear in mind the jobs that you have done and the skills that you have picked up along the way. As with any job application research what the job entails what training you may need, and also see if there is someone you know that actually does do the job. Create your own marketing pack with your CV but do not go over the top, be sure to make an impact but make sure you have a clear and logical layout and most of all details what makes you special and so very suitable for the job that you are applying for. Staying positive and focused will give you the drive that you need, and not to give up on the job of your dreams. I feel that you will succeed in the field that you wish to go in. Staying positive and focused is the way forward for you and you will soon come to realise your ambitions. Bearing all this in mind I do see that the first half of 2014 is much better for you as you settle into a new job that you will enjoy. I am not seeing that you are about to waste another year.

Hi Angie I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now, he is from Slovakia, but living and working in London. We text each other virtually everyday and he always puts a smile on my face. Last Friday was his birthday and I got him a card and presents and inside the card I wrote a short letter telling him how I felt about him and us. He text me back to say that I was crazy, but sweet at the same time. I told him that I like him, with no pressure for a committed relationship at the moment as I needed more time to get to know him. Does he feel the same?

Hi Anne Marie I am sensing that when you opened up to this man he had a bit of a shock, he is a really nice guy but I do sense with him that he can lack confidence when it comes down to anything emotional with women and I feel he is asking himself why would Anne Marie be interested in me? He was rather surprised when you opened up your heart to him but I am feeling that he is secretly pleased. This man is the sort of person that finds it hard to express his feelings and he has always been this way. I can see that you have told him honestly and openly and spoken from heart and not the head about how you felt about him, you do now have the satisfaction of knowing that you gave it your very best shot, your heart in your hands, with every bit of emotional honesty and candour you could summon. He will open up towards you and you will come to realise that he does have feelings for you and he will start to pay you even more attention. I feel that this not yet however I do see that 2014 will bring about an interesting time for you. You have most certainly done the right thing in letting this man know how you feel let him have the time he needs to process this in his brain and he will be spending more and more time with you and you will not look back. There are some wonderful times ahead of you but progress will be slow...

I threw my husband out, he is staying at mates on sofa and he told my mum he seeing someone. I don't feel he is, he told me he doesn’t love me anymore, I feel like he is trying to push me away as he can't support us. But he starts a new job Monday and we’re not going to lose house now. Will he come back to our marriage or are my instincts wrong xx

I can see that this man is really unsure of what he wants right now regarding your marriage and I see that the lack of work has had a detrimental effect on him as he does like to keep busy, being out of work has made him half the man that he was and it made him feel a complete failure. Many men have their identity wrapped up in what they do for a living. So much so that when they find themselves out of a job it's almost as if the man they are or were, no longer is. They don't recognise the face staring back at them in the mirror they feel lost. This man ran to his mates and he just could not face the fact that in his mind he had let his family down. I am not seeing that he has another woman around him, he was rather confused when he told you that he no longer loved you. He is going to feel like his old self once he has been in his new job for around six months I feel and over this period of time the relationship that he had with you will start to build up again, this is going to take a lot of time and patience on your part The key to getting your marriage back on track is not to push him in any way he needs to be allowed to settle in his new working life and as time goes on he will clear his head and then he will start to think about the family that he has walked away from. Time is of the essence here.

I'm friends with a guy at work, we hit it off as soon as we met. We started working for the company within 2 weeks of each other, both of us were approached to work there rather than applying. We have so much in common and we can talk for hours, sometimes it feels like fate has brought us together. We have kissed (after a few drinks) but not mentioned it since, I really like him and am sure it's mutual but he carries a lot of baggage from his past which has made him very guarded. I'm too scared of rejection to suggest we meet out of work and we live some distance from each other so I wouldn't just bump in to him outside of work! Sometimes I feel we have a real soul mate connection but would hate to lose his friendship if we had a relationship and it didn't work. I'd love some guidance on what to do (if anything) my intuition tells me we will be together but if it's felt that a relationship is off the cards or wouldn't work it would make it easier to try to let go. Thank you x

This man does have a lot of emotional baggage and it is likely that you are the first person that he has had such a strong connection with since he has had bad luck in his love area. He too cannot explain the way he is feeling right now but the connection that he has with you is really strong and in some ways it does scare him a little, this is why he is so guarded. As hearts travel from one relationship to another, it is only natural that we pick up some emotional baggage however some are far worse than others and the baggage that this man has is quite severe. In a way this man has set boundaries in his head to protect himself so that he cannot get hurt again and at times there is a danger of him rejecting someone that are in fact good for us. Different kinds of men respond to emotional baggage in many ways. The important thing to remember with this man is that the emotional baggage is only a turn off ''initially''. I do see that if you wish to be in a relationship with this man it can progress as he is most certainly attracted to you. The key to this whole situation will be patience and as long as you can let him take his time I do see that he will wish to be with you in a relationship and he will be able to let go of most of the past and there is a relationship that can work. To conclude this man will talk about past issues when he is ready and your patience and understanding of this will really pay off and you can have this man in your life on a loving and romantic level.