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Life can throw you diversions. Opportunities that divert you away from the path you are walking on. How do know which turn/choice is right for you?

We make decisions every day of our lives, everything that we say and do is a result of a decision that we have made, there is no easy formula for making the right decision. One of the ways of making the right decision for you is to approach it from as many perspectives as possible. It is then that you are able to choose something that this balanced and reasonable at that time. If you are feeling unhappy, unfulfilled then you have diverted away from where you are supposed to be as we all have the potential to do something amazing that can fulfil ourselves you should do what you deeply want to do even though at times it could be scary. I feel that in order to go along the correct pathway even though you may have taken a wrong turning you need to go by your gut instincts and what your body is trying to tell you. Being on the right path is simply doing what you feel is best for you and if you then feel that this was not the right thing for you taking ownership of the mistake you have made and change it, no one is perfect therefore we are all capable of getting thing wrong this is something that we have to accept. Always remember that just because ''everyone else'' seems to be taking a route (either in jobs, spending habits, social life etc.) this does not mean that you have to follow them.

Hi I went out for a meal with a girlfriend of mine at a local bar/Restaurant in town and had a good laugh, whilst we were eating the chef who served our delicious meal started stroking my hand and stroking my face, at first I thought this guy was "the top flirting" so I let it go we enjoyed our meal and went home. Went to the bar and saw the chef again and this time he gave me his number is this man serious about me? L&L. D

Hi Dionne, I can see that the Chef is attracted to you and he is not normally the sort to give out his telephone number, he has now left it in your hands to make the initial contact as although he does like you he did not want to seem too pushy and ask for your number. I can see due to his working life he is limited for time to take you out so please bear this in mind as he will not be able to spend many evenings with you due to the unsociable hours that he works. I feel that when you do decide to call him it would be wise to let him have your number as it sets a boundary and it lets a man know what he has to do to pursue you, this enables you to know if he is interested as he will then start to call you. Let this man ask you out not you ask him. Just one phone call to him will not hurt it pays to not be too eager or available let him do all the chasing otherwise if you are too keen or handing yourself over to him on a plate he need not make any effort at all. If this man does not lift a finger to get in touch then you know that he was never genuine and you have had a lucky escape. I suspect that this is not going to be the case however, I do see that he will make a big effort, and there are happy times ahead of you.

I have been widowed for several years now and I dearly would like to meet someone new. All the men I meet are selfish and usually just want me for one thing!! I feel so depressed. I have a man who I have been seeing for two and half years on and off. I feel a very strong link to him. However at times I feel I dislike him so intensely because he can be so rude and does not seem to be on my wavelength. However at times I love him to bits as he can be so loving and compassionate. How can this man have two sides to him? I feel he has been damaged in some way in the past and therefore he can be on the defensive. I also feel at times that he is not telling me the truth over everything and that depresses me but I can't prove it. However at times I feel I am over reacting. Is he the man for me or will there be someone else? I feel so confused.

Hi Mary I can see that the man you are currently seeing is hard work for you at times and two and a half years later he has not really improved, this man as you say does have two very different sides to him. Even though you have great love for this man I feel that he will not change, he does seem to be set in his own ways. I feel that he does not seem to understand how it upsets you when he is rude. He knows that you are there for him and it appears he thinks that you will always be wanting him and waiting for him. As human beings we tend to accept the love we think we deserve, and sometimes you think for some reason you feel that you just cannot get out. I feel that deep down inside you know that this man is not right for you but you stay and you have tried even harder for this to work. The problem is the longer that you continue this cycle the more your self worth starts to erode this then makes it harder and harder for you to remove yourself from this relationship. Do not forget your worth and this relationship is not working out as you would like it in the present, therefore, it means that it is meant to work out with someone else in the future. I really do feel that if you choose to walk away from this man then there is someone else for you. This new man is very down to earth, and has a lot to offer you for your future. I do feel that this man has been damaged in the past and this does affect your relationship for sure and this really is something that he needs to address with someone professional. I really do not see that you are over reacting at all, this man is difficult for you to handle and I can see that he will always be this way. The decision of where this goes is not going to be easy. I can see how difficult that this is for you, but if you are looking for a man that makes you feel wanted, special and well loved then you will get this with a new man and not this current one. It is time to do some serious thinking…

I lost my husband on the 3rd of may and I feel my life ended to as I was his carer for ten years to lose him as I did has taken the will to go on too hard our kids heartbroken to and I cant help them please help I need my husband so much.

Hi, I can see that the loss of your husband has had a devastating effect on all of you and this is so hard to deal with. The feelings that you have for this loss is perfectly natural and the fact is, there are no rules to how you cope with this loosing someone you love and care deeply for is very painful and you will all go through difficult emotions and it feels as though the sadness you are experiencing will never go away. I cannot promise you that all the pain will go away but in time it will be easier to deal with. You have all had a significant loss therefore, the pain is more intense and I can sense that you feel so helpless where your children are concerned as you feel bad that you are unable to take their pain away. Your children too need to go through this process of grieving. Even though right now you are finding this loss really hard to cope with there will be acceptance and you will find peace knowing that you are powerless to change this and you all loved and cared for this man especially when he became unwell, this man knew how much he was loved by all of you. This made his life so much better as he had people around that really cared and you did a grand job looking after this man for ten years and you should be so proud of this. A lot of your life was spent caring for him rather than socialising etc and this in turn has left a big gap in your life as you have time on your hands now where you do not know how to fill the gap. The sadness of loosing him never goes away completely but it should not be centre stage when the pain and the loss is not quite so painful. Over the time the initial shock and horror will fade as your loss does become part of your life. You will being to get back into day to day things and you will all start to focus on other things in your life. Blessings

My ex finally managed to speak to me via my home phone when I refused to return his texts or calls as I had enough of being second best. This took almost 18 months and in that time I gradually healed myself, he asked to come over to see me and we spent a lovely day together and I only mentioned that he did not treat me right and I could see from his face that I had hit home. Neither of us said anything about seeing each other again but he came to see me 3 weeks later and kept in touch via texting within that time. I’m in a real dilemma he won’t open up and commit to seeing me again and I want to say that it can’t be like it was before. I would love to have an insight into this and find out just what is going on in his head and if there is any future for us to be a proper couple.

Hi Marie, I can see that it has taken you a lot of courage to become strong again, This man is showing signs of regret around him and I sense that he wishes to come back into your life on a permanent basis, I feel that one of his fears is that if he leaves it too late you could meet someone else. There is absolutely no ambiguity about the fact that he contacted you for the sole reason that he was thinking about you, wondering how you were, and maybe even questioning whether or not you had made the right decision in ending the relationship. When you mentioned about the bad way that he treated you it did hit on a raw nerve as the guilt of how he treated you all came to the front of his mind, this is something he feels embarrassed to be reminded of. I do see that there can be a future for you with this man and the way forward is to stay strong and not back down on what you want from him. The best way to handle this is to gradually take him back as he slowly proves his commitment to you. I do see that you will be given the opportunity to say to him what you have always wanted too and it would be good to let him to him that you feel so disrespected by the way he has treated you. This man will open up to you as deep down he knows he will have to in order for this relationship to truly work. People do make mistakes and it is up to you to make him realize that you can live without him and you have already achieved this by being silent on him when he first left you. I feel that the main thing is be strong always maintain your dignity and integrity and remain hopeful that all will be okay as I do see that it will be, this man has learned a tough lesson and I feel that you will be a proper couple as you will not settle for anything less and he knows this.

Hi Angie, I'm going on holiday in a few weeks time, and I should be happy and looking forward to travelling, but instead I have my head in my hands, in total despair. I have problems with my housing/council and they say I owe thousands of pounds, the man I just met a few months ago has decided he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. And in my place of employment, my line manager has reported me for accidently sending out the wrong information, making me feel like I have committed a crime. Please give me some kind words of wisdom.

I can see that you are in a really tricky situation right now, and I feel that regarding your housing/council situation you need to find out the full facts as to why they have suddenly decided that you owe them so much money. Basically you do need the proof and it would be wise to put something to them in writing i.e. an email and include in the email that you wish them to confirm by return that they have received it, once you get the information in black and white detailing how you owe the money (give them a 48hours deadline to do this) then arrange with them either for someone to come and see you at home face to face or arrange to go into the office to discuss this. If it if legitimate that you owe this money then arrange with them for an amount monthly that you can afford to pay it back. If they do not agree to this or you do not feel that this is owed or in fact you owe the money down to their error contact your local M.P. he may be able to help you to get an agreeable compromise. Do not run away or ignore this issue take charge of this and I really do feel that it will get sorted out. The guy that was in your life seems to have decided that he does not wish to be in a relationship any longer but it would have been polite to have explained this to you rather than 'blank' you out. Sadly there is little than you can do about this right now and you need to remember if he is capable of just going quiet on you he would be a really challenging man in the future to deal with and he would not really make you happy. Try to think of this in a positive way and that this is his loss and he is one less problem to deal with everything else that you are having to cope with right now. I am really not surprised that you have made an error in your work with all that you are trying to cope with at this present time. If work are not aware of the stress that you are going through with the council it may be wise to tell your line manager, I feel that he was left with no option but to report it otherwise he could have been in trouble if it had come to light and he has not done so. Again take charge of this and ask to see your line manager in private, explain what has been going on in your life apologise for your error and tell them that you will take more care in the future you do understand the implications of what you have done and will ensure it will not happen again. If you make the first move on this I actually feel you will be okay. This is a really difficult phase you are going through right now but given that you face up to the things that have happened and take some form of action not wait for them to take action on you, you will find the outcome of the council and work will be much better for you. I then feel that you can go on your well deserved holiday knowing that things are more or less resolved. Have a great time away!