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Hi, I have been looking for work for sometime but nothing has come through for me.I am either not contacted or go to the interview to be told I'm too experienced. Am I doing something wrong I have never been out of work for so long before. Please can you advise when I will find work and if it is a permanent or temp role. Also I have had bad experiences in the past and wonder if i can at last find a company that will reward and develop me. Many Thanks

You are in a catch 22 situation, and  the problem is as you are over qualified, employers look at you in a negative way for example they will feel that you are going to get bored and un motivated which will lead to you being unhappy. The assume that you will leave the moment that something better comes along The way forward to this is convince them that you have a valid reason that you wish to take a lower level of work, for example, you are tired of crazy work schedules and you are interested in a better work/llfe balance. Make it known to them that although you are fully aware that you are over qualified for the job you would bring just as much passion to the role as  you would any other. You may have to convince them that you are flexible regarding salary. It may be and idea that when you get the interview lay your cards on the table and ask the  interviewer if he or she sees any negative i or positive to you getting the job based  on your higher level of qualifications. I do see that you will obtain a job during the winter months and it appears that it will be a permanent position, it will not be a job that makes use of all your qualities and qualitications however, you will be able to work your way up through the company. I am not seeing that you are going to be treated badly in your next jo You are going to make the progress that you need  and I can see that in the future you will be feeling happy and contented and you will be given the opportunity to use all your skills again.

I have a sister and brother who I have never met but we have exchanged email messages and we all would love to meet up with each other but I am really nervous of taking this next step and meeting them due to not getting on or talking with their father (who is also mine).

I can see that this is going to be really emotional for all of you and it is really natural that you are nervous about meeting up with them, in a way you need to take your father out of the equation, you are all adults and can make your own decisions and I can see that they so wish to meet you, this is part of your family of which you have been denied up until now. There is no blame on all three of you at all the fact that you have not been together up until now. If you are really worried about meeting up with them express your concerns and your fears to them as you will no doubt see that they too have the same fears as you and if need be maybe get some professional help in order to see this through. I feel that you will all get on really well with them and it will be the missing part of your life that you are now able to complete I feel that it would be an idea for you all to meet up and I have no doubt at all that you will then keep in touch for the rest of your lives. I really do feel that meeting up will bring good things rather than bad and the fact that you have not been talking for to your father for many years is not going to affect the relationship that you have with your brother and sister. I feel that as long as you take things slowly with your brother and sister I see not reason as to why this should not be a good thing, I feel you will not regret meeting up with them as they so wish to meet up with you.

There is a girl that I like, but she has just recently come out of a long term relationship. I think she likes me, but isn't in that place because of her previous relationship. What should I do?

Hi, This lady does have trust issues and this will take time to overcome. However; with some sensitivity and patience, it is very possible to build a new relationship with a solid foundation of trust. This lady has been through a really bad time. I am seeing that she does like you and it is due to the fact that she has been badly hurt in the past, so because of that that she is extremely cautious. I feel just for now it would be wise to keep talking to her in a friendly way over a period of time (and I am not picking up that it will be months, but weeks), and she will start to gain back her confidence. I do feel that her confidence did take a knock when her relationship broke up. You are correct in that she does like you, you have not imagined it at all, and this is only a matter of time before she will start to open up towards you and you will have the confidence to ask her you out and she will accept. You might say that she can trust you and that you’ll be there for her, but actions always speak louder than words, and this is only something that she will realise as time goes on. I do see good progress here and you will be happy in the future.

I know my husband loves me but since I told him my childhood life he stays out at night when will he return home why is he taking his time x

I can see that this situation is really worrying you and your husband seems to be trying to deal with what you have told him regarding your childhood, but he is not dealing with it very well at all. I am picking up that this has all become a bit of a shock to him. I feel that he also feels guilty that he cannot put it right what has happened in your childhood, he finds it all really hard to comprehend, I realise that you are concerned about this and he just feels so helpless about what happened to you even though it is history now. I can see that he appears to have a new set of friends and this is whom he spends time with at night at the moment they seem to look exciting to him but it will all turn very boring soon now. I feel the shock of what you told him which from your part took you a lot of courage to open up and tell him has made him just run for now, it is just his way of coping. This man will be returning to you as I can see that he is already missing you and his home life that he had with you, and I can see that he really does need to open up and talk to you about his feelings. I can see that he has not fallen out of love with you but he has just lost his way in life right now. The winter months look to be much better for you when your relationship does look to be relaxed again when you start to get this all back on track your patience will pay off.

My husband has left me but his clothes, etc are still at home. Has he got intentions on coming home to make our marriage work or is he just playing me? He sleeps out at night, is he seeing someone or is it all in my head? Xx

I can see great upset and confusion around you at this time which is only natural. I feel that your husband is not being truthful to you. He is insecure and very unsure about what it is he is wanting and he appears to want his freedom right now and there are two reasons as to why he has not collected all his clothes. One is that he has to face you which he is not willing to do as he feels guilty at the way he has been treating you lately, deep in his heart he knows that you have not done anything wrong at all. The other reason is he does not want to completely close this marriage and by leaving some of his clothes at the marital home it is also an excuse to contact you and also a way to come back into your life. I do feel that there are other women around this man but no one that he is in a relationship with, sadly I feel that if you were to confront him on this then he would deny it. I do see that this man will want to come back to the marriage but it is not yet and I feel that it will at the end of the winter time, but at this time there is a strong possibility that you have become much stronger and will really question if you do want him back in your life as you have started to find you own pathway ahead of you. In order to get this marriage back on track it is going to take a lot of hard work on both sides as I feel that your biggest fear is that he will decide to leave home again and you will have to suffer all the pain and the torment all over again. To conclude I am seeing that you will be the one in control as to what happens next, your husband is going to wish to return at a later date when he has got bored of the life that he is leading right now. I can see that you are not going to be at all sure if it is a good idea to allow him back in to your life. Take your time in making your decision and you will do what is best for you.

I had a difficult upbringing where I saw my mum getting beat up by my dad on numerous occasions. Even though my mum took me away from that situation when I was 8 I still feel that I allow it to hang over me, and I struggle to let the past go. How can I move on and not let it effect me anymore?

Hi Nicky I am really sorry to hear of the bad times that you have had in your childhood and often what happens in childhood can also affect the adult part of your life. I can see the great fear that you have had regarding the situation with your mum and dad, and you felt powerless to do anything as you were only an innocent child. It took a lot of courage to take both herself and you away from the situation but she did manage to find strength in the end. I can see that you must feel nervous about discussing this but it may help you to discuss this with a therapist and to help you deal with the fact that you cannot understandably let this go. You have already taken a big step with writing in your question this is baby steps forward and I do see that therapy or a support group can really bring you so much help. Sadly there are other people out there that have been through what you have been through and maybe talking to some of the others will help you and you will feel less alone. I do see with help that you will almost let most of this go and you will put these issues to the back of your mind from time to time you will think about them on rare occasions but you will be strong enough to realise that this is the past and you are living the future and no matter what your childhood was like you can be a woman of substance and carry on in your life and as you do this, it shows that no matter what is in the past you have picked yourself up and become a survivor of a difficult childhood and can hold your head up high and in doing so your mum will feel less guilty for taking so long for her to leave her marriage and even more so she will be so proud of you than she already is. I wish you well and I am sure that you will be able to let this go with the right help that will be available to you, as after all you have done nothing wrong at all.