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Hi Angie, today I received 2 calls with "Number Withheld" marked on my mobile. Of course it could be from marketing people, my ex husband calling because of our business (but normally he emails me when I miss his calls!), or it could be Enrique, a man from my past? I could be wrong but I feel it was him, if he is why was he calling?

I can see that the withheld number was not from your husband and he would do you as you say, send you an email. I am also not being shown that it is from any marketing people. The call was from someone that you are familiar with, the man from your past does have you on his mind and he has been wanting to make contact to you for some time now. He is rather embarrassed however, that he has taken so very long to be in touch with you and he is unsure of the response that he will receive from you when you do get to talk. Enrique has had quite a lot of things going on in his life, which he has started to sort out but it has been difficult for him not to mention emotional. Enrique has stolen your heart I feel but it has not been straight forward at all for you he made a big impression on you when you first met up and it was almost electric. Enrique has had you on his mind and sometimes he feels as though he is in a hopeless situation right now but I feel that he has started to face up to things and is making some progress. The reason for his call is that he has rung to tell you how much he is missing you and how he is trying to sort out his life right now for the better. I feel that Enrique just wishes to talk to you and put the record straight of where you stand and I do see this as being a positive thing indeed. He will call again.

I know that this coming year is full of changes for the better but I'm scared to embrace the change. Advice?

Hi Lisa, It is natural to not like or want change as it was really scary. The pathway that you are going to make is like seeing a pathway with crisp clean snow just after a big storm, this is a New Year and a new start for you. This year is a new chance to start all over again and to improve and to do something different and this will change your life radically. It is wise to have reasonable expectations of how you would wish for some things to turn out but it would be wise not to marry yourself to that result just accept whatever may come from it and you cannot go far wrong or be disappointed. Acknowledging change is allowing it to happen when it unfolds instead of approaching change from a place of denial and resistance, if you change your way of thinking then all will be fine you have some really good things ahead of you now In order to be successful it is best to accept and embrace change stepping out of your comfort zone this is now going to lead to so much more for you it is natural that you are fearful but once these changes have taken place you will look back at this year will no regrets.

When will my partners ex disappear he is causing unneeded bad energy around us all?

I can see that your partners ex has caused you as much trouble as she possibly can she is very angry that she has lost this man and it is sadly all about revenge and the last thing that she wants is to see that he is happy and settled The ex wishes to blame her former partner for the parting, she is angry and she is lashing out she will always use the best weapon that she has to hurt him. You are probably feeling traumatised by the emotional trash that she has shovelled in yours and his direction and of course you do not trust her at all not ever The chances are that his ex is going to be permanent pain for you until she has worked through her issues and this could be up to another six months before she does this, she will slowly come out of her grief tunnel. It has to be said that it is natural for her to feel this way and all you can do is stand firm knowing that it will get better and calmer. There are a few things to remember in this situation which may be of help to you:- You are powerless to control her behaviour and make it better. You and your partner however can only control your behaviour These are his ex partner’s issues. You will make progress and this will all calm down and then you can really start to get on with your marriage.

Hi, I caught a friend out lying to me about something important. Now I feel like I can never trust her again, I want to be friends but I can't let go of the deceit. I've had trust issues in the past and don't know if I'll be able to move on and be friends with her again. What should I do?

Hi Anne This is really upsetting for you as you have in the past told her your innermost secrets and the trust has been broken now. Friends lie for many different reasons it does not always me that they are not really your pal or even that they do not care about you. On the other hand sometimes they lie and it means that they are not such a good friend as you thought them to be. Good friends should be able to tell each other the truth. It is always easier to forgive an enemy than a friend and I can see that you will find this really hard to be friends with her again, you could rekindle the friendship but it really will not be the same as the trust has gone and you will choose not to confide in her in the future.. A friendship is based on loyalty and you should have been able to trust her without any hesitation, being loyal means keeping your secrets, respecting your friendship and being available when needed. I feel that you will be able to move on from this but not before you do speak to your "friend" and let her know how badly she has let you down and that your trust for her has gone, she really can be in your life if you wish her to be, it just will not be the same as this has come as a shock to you as she is the last person in the world that you thought would ever lie to you. Think very carefully about what you want or need from this friendship as it cannot be as it was sadly.

I have been in a happy relationship with my partner for the past 17 years but recently met and got involved with a new person. This person made me realise what was missing in my relationship and ignited a fire. Although I knew it was wrong I got too involved and felt such a strong connection and bond. My partner suspected I was getting in too deep and it eventually all blew up and came out. I am now in an awful situation as I still love my partner but not in the same way as before and I still want the excitement offered by this new person who is prepared to wait for me. I don't know which way to turn as I have the security and love of my current partner who is a much loved member of the family and widely respected by everyone but I cannot stop thinking about this new person who cannot offer me the same things but does offer me something new and does make me so happy in a different way. There is also a huge chemistry between us that is sadly missing with my partner and I'm not sure we could ever get this back as it has been missing for many years. Any advice would be appreciated L&L S x

I can see that things with your current partner have been difficult for a while now and this is the reason that when a new man showed an interest in you it has all looked great and exciting. There is a great bond between you as he has made a big impression on you. Your current partner is very hurt and angry by your actions and in 'his eyes'' he has done nothing wrong to deserve this. I can see that with your partner you yearn to love him passionately the way that you need to be loved. I can see that you did not really wish to break his heart. There are feelings there, but in a different way this can be worked on if you decide to stay with him, but it will not be easy as it is almost as if you love him but are no longer 'in love' with him. You really do need to be true to yourself and it is not a great idea to compare your current partner with this new man, it is better not to rely on either of these men for your happiness you need to be happy just for you. It does look as though the thought of not having the new man in your life feels unbearable, both men are really different and can offer you very different things. If you are no longer in love with your current partner then really you are both living a lie and it would be unfair to stay in this relationship as it is stopping him from moving on and meeting someone else in the future. The new person is telling the truth when he says he will wait for you but he will only wait for so long it is not limitless. The time has come to be really truthful to yourself, although your current partner within the family, they are not the ones that are in a relationship with him and this appears to have run its natural course. Try to be logical in your thinking and you will make the right decision, there is a reason as to why you became involved with the new man, if you were really happy in your current relationship he would never have been able to entice you away in the first place.

I’ve been in love with a guy who lives 170miles away. We have seen each other twice but he won't commit to long distance. He has found someone else as have I but I still love him and want to be with this guy. How does he feel about me and will we ever meet again?

The rule is that the shorter the distance between two people the better off you are. In a way you needed to get past the next 10-12 dates in order for it to have the possibility of it going somewhere and this has not happened and I am not seeing you meeting up with him again. This man did really, really like you but he became very realistic and decided that due to the distance apart this was not going to go anywhere and at this stage he thought it best to let this relationship go. No matter what type of person you are, you are bound to have experienced some form of jealous when your partner stays miles away. The problem is for the both of you; you can imagine things which may not even happen in real life. For example, you may think that your partner is not responding enough to you whereas he may have been busy with something else. I can see that he has had issues around trust and even though he has no reason to doubt you he has not been able to trust you as much as we would have liked too however this is through no fault of your own. This man has decided to move on as the new woman is nearer to him and he is concentrating on that relationship. I feel it is time (even though it is hard for you) to move on, and you are already half way there as you too have met someone else. Sadly the long distance relationship was just not meant to be.